tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post762278150546917786..comments2013-12-21T12:53:43.180-05:00Comments on Into The Fields....: Three Months HomeRenaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03608389263723790377noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-74481508942492681932010-12-05T21:13:19.250-05:002010-12-05T21:13:19.250-05:00Hi Renae, we spoke once may months ago on the Intl...Hi Renae, we spoke once may months ago on the Intl. adoption site. I check in every so often to see how things are going for you and your family. I just want to say thank you. I think when people deal with attachment issues, no matter how large or small, they tend to keep in quiet - not wanting to show their vulnerabilities. The fact that you are so open and honest about what you deal with on a daily basis is exactly what needs to be communicated. It gives those who are planning to adopt a very important perspective, and those who have adopted the opportunity to stop judging themselves for feeling the same way you do. No one is alone, and that is what your words tell us. So, thank you. And you good luck. I know you are on a difficult journey that will be one of the greatest rewards of your family's lives.April~https://www.blogger.com/profile/02966520127733965706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-61873044292091862182010-11-10T21:16:12.173-05:002010-11-10T21:16:12.173-05:00I just saw this sweet friend. My computer that ha...I just saw this sweet friend. My computer that had my links was going quirky and for some reason my "follow" link to your blog on blogger isn't working.<br /><br />I LOVE that you updated!!! All the details are in the truth of the adjustment process! God taught me SOOOO much...especially through our first adoption (though each has been so different and I've had to learn so much....still learning...lol). Talk about a challenge and learning and praying and feeling insane at times.<br /><br />Hugs and Prayers!!!!!<br /><br />P.S. All of our adopted blessing except Gabe had night terrors too. It's so sad.Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09341478847769765450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-4716698259284282292010-10-23T22:46:24.018-04:002010-10-23T22:46:24.018-04:00Renae ~ Should you ever come to a place when you m...Renae ~ Should you ever come to a place when you might need a break from Ava, Please, contact me. For days or weeks or however long, I will be there for you. Blessings ~ JoJo's Cornerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07598582453797668103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-78326218996141440812010-10-20T19:55:35.946-04:002010-10-20T19:55:35.946-04:00I read your prayer request on Linny's blog and...I read your prayer request on Linny's blog and wanted you to know that I am standing in the gap tonight for you in prayer. We, too, dealt with attachment issues in both of our boys' adoption. Philip came home in June 2008, and Elijah just came home in February of this year. I, too, had to deal with my own temper, anger, bitterness, etc. because attachment didn't happen right away or as I dreamed it would. <br /><br />I had to constantly give it over to God. I even had to post Bible verses around the house this last time to remind myself not to lose my temper with my newest precious little boy. In fact, I had to beg God each day to let me see Elijah as a precious little boy dearly loved by Him. I so know what you are going through.<br /><br />The good news - it gets better! You don't think it will,but praying and using many of those bonding techniques (techniques I thought I would never use because I was just sure it wasn't going to happen to us!) Circling the wagons with your precious new child, filling her up with good experiences while she is with you, not letting others do things for her at first - those all help. It may take a little more time than you thought it would (with Philip it took about 3 months until I could love him as his mother and with Eli it took many, many more months to get there) But I am there now. We are bonding and attaching more and more and it is beautiful.<br /><br />I will pray for that to happen to you all!<br /><br />In Christ,<br />Janet<br />http://threefingerprintsofgod.blogspot.comJanet and Kevinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02951028593473613761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-24087496490325885262010-10-20T08:27:09.944-04:002010-10-20T08:27:09.944-04:00I saw your prayer over at Linny's blog. Our da...I saw your prayer over at Linny's blog. Our daughter came home five years ago, and what looked like an attachment issue was really a sensory integration issue. She couldn't handle all the input. Our big clues were the eating thing -- she couldn't organize her mouth to chew once she was overwhelmed by the day's input (usually around 4:30). I too had the anger issues. Please check it out and talk with your doctor. http://karendawkins.blogspot.com/2010/04/memorial-box-monday-we-made-it.html There are other posts about our struggles, but this one covers a lot of it. God bless.Karen Dawkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152492454336177536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-76604958063183372672010-10-16T10:38:47.979-04:002010-10-16T10:38:47.979-04:00Beautiful post!!!!!
Attachment! Bleck! ;). Ta...Beautiful post!!!!! <br /><br />Attachment! Bleck! ;). Tavi is doing worse than I thought! It's so hard to keep from getting angry somedays!<br /><br />It sounds like you have a better handle on things than me! I'm learning from you and so thankful for you my friend!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00780602398588917246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-73568790895037262672010-10-14T11:50:13.060-04:002010-10-14T11:50:13.060-04:00Renae, I know the journey and I became quite quiet...Renae, I know the journey and I became quite quiet for the first 3 months or so... I felt like I was drowning... then I found a new social worker for post placements... she helped me to see the power struggle going on, I started reading The Connected Child and I began to see Elina's progress instead of letting her attempt to control my every move. As someone who is extremely independent I found our bad days... often were tempered by me trying to not be controlled. I tell you... get to 6 months and you will be like... wow... when was it that we had that rough patch again... kinda like child birth... it is kinda fuzzy as to how much pain it was... :) <br /><br />You are doing a great job with Ava, keep your head up and keep up the good work! <br /><br />YvonneYvonnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01938057368810789112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-30964111827599249832010-10-12T04:14:45.819-04:002010-10-12T04:14:45.819-04:00Renae, I can't even tell you how much I apprec...Renae, I can't even tell you how much I appreciate you! Your honesty and transparency will bring so much hope to so many. Our God is amazing and He will bring us through all the times our lives aren't matching the vision we had in our minds and in our hearts. Thank you for reminding us of this and that in the most difficult times of the adoption journey, He will change us and mold us into who we need to be for the journey ahead! <br /><br />Sending lots of love your way,<br />LoriLori Schumakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03146372328978894133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-54361592300936725952010-10-11T19:17:01.164-04:002010-10-11T19:17:01.164-04:00Thank you for the honesty!Thank you for the honesty!Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04504539011414215283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1797822688782544859.post-64077114802057867382010-10-11T11:17:33.525-04:002010-10-11T11:17:33.525-04:00Renae, thanks for the update and your honesty. I ...Renae, thanks for the update and your honesty. I had been wondering how things have been going.Vivianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01893110617976115041noreply@blogger.com